Post by Yona Maro on Aug 30, 2005 10:56:39 GMT -5
These days, it's unclear whether cybersex is cheating, a new form of solo sex, or something in-between. With the anonymity the computer offers, many formerly monogamous men and women are turning to the Internet for cheap thrills.
Whether or not a person considers cybersex cheating really depends on what he or she has agreed upon with their partner as regards sexual aids. If as a couple, neither of you minds the other getting off alone with some spicy erotica, cybersex with a stranger shouldn't be perceived as much different.
There is some point however, where encounters with strangers cross the line into the development of a relationship. It's hard to say exactly when this point occurs, but answers to some basic questions could help form the boundary:
Does your cybersex partner know you're in relationship with someone else?
Is it clear to your cybersex partner(s) that you're only interested in virtual experiences and not meeting in person?
What's the longest amount of time you've cybered with the same person?
Are you willing to stop engaging in cybersex in order to negotiate this new twist in your real-life relationship?
For some people, cybersex is a big turn-on, which they can turn into passion and creativity in the bedroom with their real-life partner. For others, cybersex is a serious distraction from problems in their primary relationship. What's most important is to keep the communication lines open with your partner so you continue to be respectful and worthy of your long-term relationship.
Whether or not a person considers cybersex cheating really depends on what he or she has agreed upon with their partner as regards sexual aids. If as a couple, neither of you minds the other getting off alone with some spicy erotica, cybersex with a stranger shouldn't be perceived as much different.
There is some point however, where encounters with strangers cross the line into the development of a relationship. It's hard to say exactly when this point occurs, but answers to some basic questions could help form the boundary:
Does your cybersex partner know you're in relationship with someone else?
Is it clear to your cybersex partner(s) that you're only interested in virtual experiences and not meeting in person?
What's the longest amount of time you've cybered with the same person?
Are you willing to stop engaging in cybersex in order to negotiate this new twist in your real-life relationship?
For some people, cybersex is a big turn-on, which they can turn into passion and creativity in the bedroom with their real-life partner. For others, cybersex is a serious distraction from problems in their primary relationship. What's most important is to keep the communication lines open with your partner so you continue to be respectful and worthy of your long-term relationship.